It’s a Roller Coaster: Hang On for the Ride

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3 tips for overcoming the emotional roller coaster in your mind

This is a visual graph of the story of my life as an entrepreneur, and I think others out there might find it familiar. Fortunately, these peaks don’t happen every day (at least not for me), but they do happen frequently enough to make one feel like her life is a literal roller coaster! Just when you feel like you’re making strides, and are in a place of stability, the bottom drops out; and everything you thought you could rely on is no longer there. If this happened to you on a regular basis, how would you respond?

When I became a full-time entrepreneur about a year and a half ago, these peaks and valleys scared the living day lights out of me! Fear paralyzed me to the point of not even being able to focus and work. I had literal panic attacks, with shortness of breath-something that I had never experienced before. When I left my former job to pursue my online business full time, I was confident that I was in a good place to do so for several reasons: I had acquired a fourth client, had a decent savings; and crunched the monthly budgeting numbers to ensure I would have enough money to pay expenses. So I happily left ( I was miserable at that job anyways and created this plan in order to move on) to begin a new thing. Little did I know that it would be hard to find a schedule that worked for me in order to accomplish my daily tasks and balance my home life. I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off, without any structure or organization. Two weeks into my new venture, I lost the client that I acquired right before I resigned from my full-time job. That moment in time shook me, because I knew that I was counting on that money to keep the business afloat. It brought me to my knees, crying and praying incessantly. That SAME day, I received a phone call from a small business owner who was referred to me, inquiring about my services and she’s still a loyal customer today. The spikes from the graph are real! Just when you think you’ve lost it all and everything is spiraling out of control, something happens that makes you feel as if you’ve gained a sense of normalcy. There is no way that one person can manage these drastic changes alone. I’ve discovered a formula that gives me the strength to keep moving forward and I’m sharing it in hopes that it will help someone else.

Faith A habit of daily prayer and faith have helped me to keep moving when I am afraid. Prayer brings me the sanity that I need to continue working on the things that I have control over, even when it feels like everything around me is falling apart.

About a year ago a successful entrepreneur recommended that I read Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”.  One of the assignments from this book was to write a clear and concise statement of your goals and the steps you plan to take to achieve them.  I took the time to complete the exercise, and every morning before I begin working I repeat my action plan. The excerpt below is the part that I mentally ingest into my spirit the most. It gives me the  shot of courage that I need to keep pressing forward when I feel helpless and have no sense of control:

I will sacrifice time to gain additional knowledge and financial hardship until my business becomes a success, temporary suffering in defeat, and being uncomfortable from uncertainty. I will make a daily habit of talking to God in prayer. I will not give up when situations look bleak and unpromising. I will continue to persevere and keep moving even when I am afraid.

Persistence There are so many days that I feel like giving up. Just about every day, I ask myself, “What am I doing?” and I question my decision to become an entrepreneur. I thought that taking the risk of working for myself would be rewarding and wouldn’t come with any regrets. Boy, was I wrong! I have learned that what I did when I resigned from working for someone else was exchange one set of problems for others. But just when I’m at my lowest, something positive happens, where an effort to help someone actually works; and, it gives me the boost of energy I need to keep going. The moments in between are excruciatingly hard, but it’s worth it to continue trying in order to feel the sensation of success!

Improvise

You’d think that stand-up comedians would be the only people who would need improvisation skills. Nope! Not the case! As an entrepreneur, there are so many hats that you have to wear during the day: laborer, accountant, marketer, etc. Then there are the unexpected things that distract you from daily tasks; and, if you aren’t careful, they will frustrate you to the point of giving up.

Last week, I had a working vacation. My husband had to office out of his organization’s Dallas location, so my son and I tagged along because my family lives there. I enjoyed being around family, but my schedule was so different from the norm; and to top off all of the confusion, I spilled water on my laptop midweek. Talk about having to improvise. I used my phone and my husband’s computer (still doing this as week speak) to get major tasks out of the way. I also just found out that my computer won’t be able to be repaired because of the water damage. So guess who gets to figure out how she’s going to get another computer? This chick! But guess what? It’s not going to keep me from doing what I need to do. I’ll keep on pushing, praying, and waiting on God to open the doors that I can walk through to be successful!

Keep your head up, and keep going!

JRobinson

 

There Can Be Miracles, When You Believe

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Tips for Ensuring You Seek & Find God Everyday

About year ago when I stepped out on faith to invest in my business on a full-time basis, I was scared and worried about so many things that were out of my control. I used to worry about the money I would make driving with Uber; having enough money to pay my bills; meeting new people and trying new things in my business that I’ve never done before.The year passed so quickly, but as I reflect on that time, I have learned that I can depend on God to supply all my needs, even if it’s not in the manner that I expected. All I have to do is ask Him for what I need, seek out His presence, keep moving, and expect a response!

Because He responds  in such an unconventional manner, there are a few things that you have to do in order to ensure that you don’t miss out His promise. He said He will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5) Here are the ways that I look for God and find the strength to keep going:

Pray Daily Payer is the manner that we communicate with God. Once you begin to do it more frequently, you develop a relationship with Him that can be compared to talking with an old friend. Prayer draws you closer to God and helps you to understand who He truly is. Once a better understanding occurs, it is easier to look for Him,seek His counsel,and tell Him whatever you need.

I can openly admit that I have never been more closer to God than I have been since I started my own business. As a friend of mind pointed out during a discussion, He has placed me in situations that only He can get me out of! It helps me to recognize His presence more easily and it is for this reason that I am truly grateful!

Read the Word The Bible is one of the ways that God speaks to us. It’s true that when you are still, you can hear Him speaking to you; but in those moments of silence, it’s also a good idea to pick up the Word and study it. You might just find His response in the scriptures.

As humans, we often believe that every personal experience we encounter is unique; but, that’s not the truth. If we look outside of ourselves and talk to others, we will find that others have been  through the same thing. There are some Biblical situations that we can also relate to. Reading and observing those actions provides insight an appropriate response. We can either learn from the mistakes that were made, or follow the advice of the successful outcomes. The choice is ours, but reading the Bible is one of the ways God will respond to you. Make it a habit to ensure that you are not missing out on what He’s trying to tell you!

Remember What You Asked For Have you ever asked God for something, but stopped looking for it because you didn’t see an immediate response? It’s one of the biggest mistakes that I know I’ve made! It’s important to consistently ask and expect a positive outcome. If the desires of your heart are positive and pure, He will give you what you asked for (seek ye first, Matt. 6:33). Once you get up off your knees from your request, you have to begin walking in your expectations; doing the things that you know you need to be done in order to achieve your dreams. Once you begin showing Him that you are willing to do your part, He begins to walk with you in your request. You’ll notice that He also shows up in perfect timing; just when you have no faith or are about to give up!

God is always with us; but, we have to remember to acknowledge His presence in all that we do through talking to Him and looking for a response. He always responds; we just have to position ourselves for an answer!

Yours in the bond,

JRobinson

Fear’s Purpose: Can You Handle the Fight?

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Have you ever had a gut wrenching pain around the time that a new challenge presents itself? Do you ever feel anxious or throw up as the time to deliver what you promised approaches? Do you wake up before the early alarm clock sounds in nearly a panic attack; having to take deep breaths to calm down? Then you are not alone. These feelings are normal and serve a purpose. You may not like it, but fear prompts action and here’s why it needs to remain present in your life!

When fear sets in, it presents a call to action, but you still have a choice. You can either let the emotion consume you and do nothing, or start moving and attempting to complete the task that ‘s giving you anxiety.

Listen to the Fear Alarm

Fear is a reminder that something is unsettled and needs attention. It won’t go away until you address it. That gut-wrenching feeling that can bring up nausea is there for a reason. We can try to pretend you don’t know what’s going on and avoid the situation, but in our heart-of-hearts, we know why it’s there. What’s so funny is once you begin working on tackling the problem, you forget the reason you were afraid and the fear subsides. This leads me to believe that God allows fear to set in  order to get us in motion. Once we prove that we are willing to meet the challenge he removes the feeling that got us moving. Mission accomplished! Be sure to respond to fear’s alarm clock; it was set for a purpose!

Avoid Opportunity Costs

I’m writing about this topic because I have a personal struggle with laziness and procrastination on the DAILY.  Every morning, I wake up before my 3:30 a.m. alarm sounds off. I like to think it’s God’s way of whispering “time to get up and do work”. But at least once (ok, maybe twice) a week, I turn the alarm off and roll back over for more sleep. When I finally wake up two hours later, I regret taking the extra hours of rest because I lost time to be productive for my business. My mind runs through the thoughts of what I could have accomplished had I woke up at the designated time. There’s a reason I set the alarm for that time. Reminding myself of the “why” helps me get up when I’m overwhelmed or just plain tired put my feet on the ground and start moving.What opportunity costs are you risking because you choose to ignore that feeling of fear or anxiety? Listen carefully, it’s attempting to nudge you in the right direction.

Keep Moving!

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The fear factor is real! It will cause to become so overwhelmed that you stand still and do nothing. Don’t allow fear to sink so deeply into your soul that you can’t lift your head and call on God for the strength to move! This is why it’s so important to respond to fear’s call as soon as you hear it; because, once it resides in your inner being, it becomes harder to move and take action!

Action doesn’t always look like you’re running toward achieving goals and tasks. Sometimes you have to start with baby steps, and that’s ok; they still equal forward progress! Once you become committed to moving, God will continue to supply what you need to get through it. You have to show a desire to get out of your situation and move on before you can receive the additional support to carry out the mission. He truly helps those who help themselves!

Be grateful for being disturbed with fear. It’s a sign that God has a purpose for your life and he wants to move you toward your promising future!

Yours in the Bond,

JRobinson