It’s a Roller Coaster: Hang On for the Ride

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3 tips for overcoming the emotional roller coaster in your mind

This is a visual graph of the story of my life as an entrepreneur, and I think others out there might find it familiar. Fortunately, these peaks don’t happen every day (at least not for me), but they do happen frequently enough to make one feel like her life is a literal roller coaster! Just when you feel like you’re making strides, and are in a place of stability, the bottom drops out; and everything you thought you could rely on is no longer there. If this happened to you on a regular basis, how would you respond?

When I became a full-time entrepreneur about a year and a half ago, these peaks and valleys scared the living day lights out of me! Fear paralyzed me to the point of not even being able to focus and work. I had literal panic attacks, with shortness of breath-something that I had never experienced before. When I left my former job to pursue my online business full time, I was confident that I was in a good place to do so for several reasons: I had acquired a fourth client, had a decent savings; and crunched the monthly budgeting numbers to ensure I would have enough money to pay expenses. So I happily left ( I was miserable at that job anyways and created this plan in order to move on) to begin a new thing. Little did I know that it would be hard to find a schedule that worked for me in order to accomplish my daily tasks and balance my home life. I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off, without any structure or organization. Two weeks into my new venture, I lost the client that I acquired right before I resigned from my full-time job. That moment in time shook me, because I knew that I was counting on that money to keep the business afloat. It brought me to my knees, crying and praying incessantly. That SAME day, I received a phone call from a small business owner who was referred to me, inquiring about my services and she’s still a loyal customer today. The spikes from the graph are real! Just when you think you’ve lost it all and everything is spiraling out of control, something happens that makes you feel as if you’ve gained a sense of normalcy. There is no way that one person can manage these drastic changes alone. I’ve discovered a formula that gives me the strength to keep moving forward and I’m sharing it in hopes that it will help someone else.

Faith A habit of daily prayer and faith have helped me to keep moving when I am afraid. Prayer brings me the sanity that I need to continue working on the things that I have control over, even when it feels like everything around me is falling apart.

About a year ago a successful entrepreneur recommended that I read Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”.  One of the assignments from this book was to write a clear and concise statement of your goals and the steps you plan to take to achieve them.  I took the time to complete the exercise, and every morning before I begin working I repeat my action plan. The excerpt below is the part that I mentally ingest into my spirit the most. It gives me the  shot of courage that I need to keep pressing forward when I feel helpless and have no sense of control:

I will sacrifice time to gain additional knowledge and financial hardship until my business becomes a success, temporary suffering in defeat, and being uncomfortable from uncertainty. I will make a daily habit of talking to God in prayer. I will not give up when situations look bleak and unpromising. I will continue to persevere and keep moving even when I am afraid.

Persistence There are so many days that I feel like giving up. Just about every day, I ask myself, “What am I doing?” and I question my decision to become an entrepreneur. I thought that taking the risk of working for myself would be rewarding and wouldn’t come with any regrets. Boy, was I wrong! I have learned that what I did when I resigned from working for someone else was exchange one set of problems for others. But just when I’m at my lowest, something positive happens, where an effort to help someone actually works; and, it gives me the boost of energy I need to keep going. The moments in between are excruciatingly hard, but it’s worth it to continue trying in order to feel the sensation of success!

Improvise

You’d think that stand-up comedians would be the only people who would need improvisation skills. Nope! Not the case! As an entrepreneur, there are so many hats that you have to wear during the day: laborer, accountant, marketer, etc. Then there are the unexpected things that distract you from daily tasks; and, if you aren’t careful, they will frustrate you to the point of giving up.

Last week, I had a working vacation. My husband had to office out of his organization’s Dallas location, so my son and I tagged along because my family lives there. I enjoyed being around family, but my schedule was so different from the norm; and to top off all of the confusion, I spilled water on my laptop midweek. Talk about having to improvise. I used my phone and my husband’s computer (still doing this as week speak) to get major tasks out of the way. I also just found out that my computer won’t be able to be repaired because of the water damage. So guess who gets to figure out how she’s going to get another computer? This chick! But guess what? It’s not going to keep me from doing what I need to do. I’ll keep on pushing, praying, and waiting on God to open the doors that I can walk through to be successful!

Keep your head up, and keep going!

JRobinson

 

Prepare for Lift Off

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Learning to fly and excel in your dreams is not an easy lift-off. Here are three tips for enduring a shaky launch!

Have you ever had a day where nothing seemed to go right? No matter what you did; whether it’s tasks that you can normally do blindfolded or a daily routine that usually flows seamlessly, all of a sudden becomes disrupted with frustration and difficulty. This was me last week. I even became a little more clumsy physically and scraped the back of my heel (still trying not to pick the scab)! Times like these make it easy to give up and just call it a day, which is exactly what the enemy wants you to do. But I’ve found that it’s even harder to  get back on track when you end your day earlier because things aren’t going your way. It’s better to stay the course, and endure the shaky lift-off because it’s the only way to get in the air.

Just Do It Last week when it felt like I could do absolutely nothing right, I began to question myself. I asked, “What is going on?” and “Did I do something that caused this to happen?” And then, once one thing after the next continued to become a struggle, I began to expect everything to go against the expected outcome. This is a bad place to settle. My attitude was in the wrong mindset, but I’m so thankful that I continued to persevere and keep going. Things were harder and it took longer to accomplish tasks; but, at the end of the day ,forward progress was made. It wasn’t as much as I had hoped for, but every step counted. Choosing to keep going moved me farther than I would have been if I had decided to wait for circumstances to get better. What if they had never gotten better? Think of all the time that would have been wasted if I continued to wait for perfect conditions? It’s laughable!

Ask for Help Believe it or not, you are not alone in this process; but, you have to learn to ask for help when you need it. There are plenty of people who love and support you, but they are not mind readers! There are times when people can sense that something is wrong and you need help; but you will not receive the immediate assistance you need without opening your mouth and letting others know about it.

When you ask for help, remember to include the ultimate source of all blessings-God. He will send help in unconventional ways and through people you did not expect or even think of ! This is why daily prayer is so important. When you talk to God frequently, not only do you develop a better relationship with Him, but you learn to also listen for His answer and response to situations in your life. It’s a beautiful thing for this revelation to happen;  and, it’s when you truly realize that you are not alone!

Stay Positive The lift off may be shaky, but it’s important to remember that it won’t always be like this. There will come a time where you will be able to reap the reward of your decision to start the engine and go! Take off won’t be the only time you experience turbulence; but those rocky moments will help you appreciate the ease and shear wonder of being in the air! So keep going because the only way to reach your dreams is to fly toward them!

JRobinson

 

There Can Be Miracles, When You Believe

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Tips for Ensuring You Seek & Find God Everyday

About year ago when I stepped out on faith to invest in my business on a full-time basis, I was scared and worried about so many things that were out of my control. I used to worry about the money I would make driving with Uber; having enough money to pay my bills; meeting new people and trying new things in my business that I’ve never done before.The year passed so quickly, but as I reflect on that time, I have learned that I can depend on God to supply all my needs, even if it’s not in the manner that I expected. All I have to do is ask Him for what I need, seek out His presence, keep moving, and expect a response!

Because He responds  in such an unconventional manner, there are a few things that you have to do in order to ensure that you don’t miss out His promise. He said He will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5) Here are the ways that I look for God and find the strength to keep going:

Pray Daily Payer is the manner that we communicate with God. Once you begin to do it more frequently, you develop a relationship with Him that can be compared to talking with an old friend. Prayer draws you closer to God and helps you to understand who He truly is. Once a better understanding occurs, it is easier to look for Him,seek His counsel,and tell Him whatever you need.

I can openly admit that I have never been more closer to God than I have been since I started my own business. As a friend of mind pointed out during a discussion, He has placed me in situations that only He can get me out of! It helps me to recognize His presence more easily and it is for this reason that I am truly grateful!

Read the Word The Bible is one of the ways that God speaks to us. It’s true that when you are still, you can hear Him speaking to you; but in those moments of silence, it’s also a good idea to pick up the Word and study it. You might just find His response in the scriptures.

As humans, we often believe that every personal experience we encounter is unique; but, that’s not the truth. If we look outside of ourselves and talk to others, we will find that others have been  through the same thing. There are some Biblical situations that we can also relate to. Reading and observing those actions provides insight an appropriate response. We can either learn from the mistakes that were made, or follow the advice of the successful outcomes. The choice is ours, but reading the Bible is one of the ways God will respond to you. Make it a habit to ensure that you are not missing out on what He’s trying to tell you!

Remember What You Asked For Have you ever asked God for something, but stopped looking for it because you didn’t see an immediate response? It’s one of the biggest mistakes that I know I’ve made! It’s important to consistently ask and expect a positive outcome. If the desires of your heart are positive and pure, He will give you what you asked for (seek ye first, Matt. 6:33). Once you get up off your knees from your request, you have to begin walking in your expectations; doing the things that you know you need to be done in order to achieve your dreams. Once you begin showing Him that you are willing to do your part, He begins to walk with you in your request. You’ll notice that He also shows up in perfect timing; just when you have no faith or are about to give up!

God is always with us; but, we have to remember to acknowledge His presence in all that we do through talking to Him and looking for a response. He always responds; we just have to position ourselves for an answer!

Yours in the bond,

JRobinson

Get Back Up: You Will Overcome!

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God and life have a sense of humor; and sometimes, their humor isn’t funny to us…at least not in the moment.

Have you ever gone through a struggle and during that awful period felt hopeless, lost, and insecure? You’re human, so I’m confident you have. Anyways, when you’re on the other side of it and reflect on what happened, you’re able to see that it wasn’t that bad. You wonder why you were so worried…and sometimes, you laugh about it.

So how does one defeat his or her situational opponent? How do you get back up after you’ve been knocked down. I’ll share the few tidbits that these life moments have taught me.

[Related ArticleSandi Krakowski: How to Stay Strong in the Difficult Seasons of Life]

Keep Moving: Usually, when we’re going through a storm, we panic and shut down. We stop doing the things that we love; we stop putting our best foot forward; and we zone out. I challenge you to stay in the moment and keep moving! Most of the things we worry about are out of our control. Do things that you’re responsible for and have control over; the rest will eventually take care of itself. It may not happen in the timing you expected, but a change WILL come because you kept moving

Find a way to Vent: We all have different ways of venting our frustrations. Some of us talk to our closest friends, others write (or blog like me). Whatever your method, find a way to purge your frustration. It will give your brain the mental space it needs to focus on the tasks you have control over and help you deposit positive energy into your loved ones.

Prayer Works: Most of think we don’t have anyone to talk to; but there’s someone we oftentimes forget about, because He isn’t physically present. God is omnipresent (everywhere) and He’s just waiting on you to acknowledge Him. He knows your heart-aches and hardships, but he wants you to tell Him about them. He wants you to seek Him and ask for His help.

Even if you don’t believe in God or a higher being, talk aloud and confirm what you want to happen. Speaking positivity into the universe changes things, you just have to be patient.

“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7 (NLT)

 

JRobinson, Owner and Founder, JRobinsonDMS

 

Do What’s within Your Control; He’ll Take Care of the Rest

Blog Graphic.pngSaturday, I made a road-trip  to my hometown to meet up with some friends at a festival. It was only meant to be a two-day stay; I planned on leaving Sunday afternoon. But I’m still here. Why? As I attempted to start my car to meet my friends Saturday, it wouldn’t start. After both my brother and the next door neighbor attempted to jump-start the car, we ended up having it towed to a auto-service shop. Now it’s Monday afternoon and they still have no clue what’s wrong with it. So what’s a girl to do?

I could easily sit here and mope; be on the verge of a panic attack; worry and fret. After all I’m human, and when my mind wanders to the things I should be doing at home, I’m only 30 seconds away from doing one of these things. But I’ve been praying since the day my car wouldn’t start; I know God will handle whatever I’m not able to do because He’s constantly looking out for me. He always handles the rest.

So I’ve decided to focus on what’s positive. Because I’m still here, I had another day to spend with my family. I had lunch with my brother and mom, then headed to the park with my brother to meet up with my cousin, her boyfriend and their daughter. That evening, I attended my hometown church and was able to greet and talk to people that I haven’t seen in a while. And today, as I wait, I’m spending time with my son; completing some work while he naps. I’m making memories that I should be thankful for, all because my car decided to not cooperate.

 

“Thanks for changing up the pace, God. This could have been just another ordinary Monday; but one negative occurrence led to several positive experiences. I choose to cherish these moments and let you take care of the rest.”-JRobinson

 

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JRobinson, Owner & Founder, JRobinsonDMS