As I dwell on the recent events in America and look at my son, I become overwhelmed, and my heart aches for his future. 5 innocent police officers and two innocent citizens have been murdered within the last 10 days. Enough is enough! When will the unnecessary violence stop?
I still consider myself new to this thing called parenting (the kid’s only 2), and I find myself discovering emotions that seasoned veterans like my mom, aunts, and cousins experienced ages ago. Every time I see a new story on the news about police shootings, or a young black man’s life ended during a traffic stop I turn and look at him, saying a silent prayer of safety for his protection.
I won’t always be around to guard him from what’s evil in life. As he continues to grow, I worry about him being bullied, experiencing rejection, having his heart-broken, and being pulled over for simply “driving while black”. The unlimited possibilities of unpleasant experiences that can occur in his lifetime sadden my spirit.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m a realist. I know that bad moments are a part of all of our lives. I just want the best for my son. I want him to be able to remain innocent for as long as possible; to be positive and see the good in others simply because that’s all he currently knows. I want him to walk through life without being jaded or having to watch over his shoulder. I only want him to have to worry about being the best person that he can be. Is that truly possible in today’s world?
The answer to my question is “yes”; but it’s hard to remain positive when your eyes are open to life’s harshness. The solution: close them and trust in God’s presence to lead you. This response has always been in every Christian’s face, so why don’t we automatically submit to this action? It’s because we’re human; and it takes time, effort and practice to simply let go and trust.
The Bible tells believers to think on positive things: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” Philippians 4:8.
If it’s not positive, I shouldn’t dwell on it. That’s what I comprehend from this verse. I can see it; I can interpret it; and I can learn from it; but I must not stand and live in negativity.
So I’m committing to doing the opposite of being scared for my son’s future. Will I worry? Sure; but I won’t dwell on it and live in a constant state of fear. I’ll simply begin to think and plan for the positive opportunities that will be available for him and to seek the good in others. I will have to lead by example, because he won’t understand unless he sees it action. And when life gets tough and it seems that this task is impossible; I will recall my affirmation: it’s because his life matters.
Mothers, take courage!
JRobinson-Owner and Founder, JRobinson Digital Media Services