I’m a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother…..and I’m struggling. Struggling to be the best in ALL these roles! Surely I’m not the only person that has this problem, striving to be the perfect wearing these hats. I’ve literally cried to God asking him to show me how to be a better me. I tell myself that other people’s opinions about me don’t matter to me; but deep down, I truly do care about what my inner circle feels and thinks about JRobinson. If my family isn’t receiving what what they need from me, it breaks my spirit; I feel like a failure….and nothing else matters. So what’s the solution? How do I find that happy medium? I crave a healthy work/life balance.
In doing some recent content research for one of my clients, I found an article that provided a guideline for getting through the work day without losing yourself: This Is Your Perfect Schedule for a Productive Day (Science Says So) | The Muse. CIO Online’s article laid out a a blue-print for setting priorities and finishing the day feeling accomplished. There’s some great take-aways that I’m focusing on implementing in my daily routine, and they work; but, there’s one major area that the article doesn’t address-scheduling time for your family. Whether you’re an executive, manager, or a small business owner like me, it’s so easy to become consumed by your professional work.
When I launched my business and stepped out on faith to pursue it full-time, I did not know how much of an undertaking and effort it would be to keep it afloat. I have to work for my clients, promote my business, complete administrative tasks, and seek new clients. All of these processes add up to more than an 40-hour work-week! So at the end of the day, I’m drained; and then, my family comes home. There’s a meal to make; the physical care of my son; and carving out quality time to spend with my husband. Where should the energy come from? There’s not enough caffeine, energy drinks, or enhancers in the world to literally be “on” all day; to reciprocate the love and support that is freely shown to me.
In thinking, praying, and brain-storming for an answer, there was a mental whisper that told me the answer for having time for your loved-ones; it’s just like anything else: You have to MAKE the time. I love to run, but I have to carve out time to run. I love to read, but I have to set aside time to read. So why can’t I do the same for my family? The answer is that I can!
So words are all fine and dandy; but what does this commitment look like in reality? What I’m learning is that I don’t have to be perfect for my family to show them that I love them. I just need to make time to let them know that they’re special. To me this means shutting off my cell phone and scheduling play time with my son; having date-nights with my husband; sending my loved one’s a message expressing my appreciation for them.
As I’m writing this blog, a friend of mine sent me a text message that included a You-Tube video link and speaks to this very message. To my female audience, if you’re feeling worn-out in the many roles that I’ve just described, make time to watch this video. This #Heart Chat will give you the fuel to get up and do the work that needs to be done in becoming a better you!
JRobinson, Owner and Founder, JRobinson Digital Media Services